Monthly Archives: July 2006

july 20 newsletter

july 20, 2006

dear friends –

wow, it’s almost august already!  i wonder how many you are on vacation right now, enjoying a change of pace, a change of environment, and hopefully lots of relaxation …

the older i get, the more i appreciate the rhythm that carries me through the years.  this time of year often has a bit of a dreamy quality, doesn’t it? 

maybe it’s the summer heat, maybe it’s memories of wonderful vacations we’ve had in the past, maybe it’s this change of pace that seems to slow everything a bit down.  then in september, everything starts afresh, with the autumn breezes giving us a bit of encouragement.  then thanksgiving, the christmas season, new year, the awakening from the cold in the lovely spring that we have here in vancouver – and then it’s summer again, the cycle continuing on and on.

there is something soothing in this rhythm.  why is that?  it makes me think of the ocean – the waves coming in, going out, coming in, going out.  these ebbs and tides are part of my life.  maybe we’re all a little bit like the ocean? 

also, taking part in the rhythm of the seasons connects me to everyone else.  to you, to other people, to the bears up in whistler, the seals on kits beach, to the arbutus trees by lighthouse park, to the north shore mountains … we’re all part of the same drama.  

more and more i realize, too, how important it is that we feel this connection, that we feel that we’re not alone with our daily challenges.  that sounds like such a cliche, doesn’t it?  but like so many cliches, we tend to dismiss them, roll our eyes and say, yeah, yeah, yeah, whatever. 

most cliches are grown from a very rich soil of truth, though.  so as i dig deeper into this cliche, i notice that even those of us who deeply treasure our time alone or are not social butterflies, still direly need this connection to the world around us. 

if we do not truly and consciously engage with other human beings and other creatures around us, we cut ourselves off from vital sources of hope, joy, understanding and inspiration.

marja bergen is someone who is very aware of this.  i am happy to announce that she will be our fireside chat author of the month, next wednesday, july 26.  marja has written riding the rollercoaster: living with mood disorders.  we will have a conversation about how her spiritual connections help her manage her mental health. 

even though there are millions of canadians who struggle with mental health issues, there is still so much stigma attached to it.  we are very lucky that there are courageous people like marja who pierce through this stigma.

as many of you know, our fireside chats are friendly, informal discussions at sacred space at 27 west pender street (across from tinseltown) on wednesdays from 6:30pm to 7:30 pm.  here are the dates:

fireside chat topics

wednesday, july 26  – author’s night: marja bergen
wednesday, august 2 – books that make a difference
wednesday, august 9  – no fireside chat (i’ll be in kelowna)
wednesday, august 16 – animal friends

please come and visit us for these lovely chats; we always have a great time and it’s always so surprising what comes out of these conversations!  a few weeks ago, we had a talk on creativity, and one of the things we ended up talking about was how to be creative in our relationships.  so you never know …

have a wonderful time, everyone, enjoy your summer, and take good care of yourselves!
 

isabella mori
counselling in vancouver

my first wordpress post!

i finally moved my blog over to wordpress! i’m so happy! can we have a celebration? how do you have a celebration on a blog? any ideas?

as you can see, all of my previous posts (minus the ones from january, for some strange reason) have been imported from my old blog.

let me know what you think of the new layout. of course there’s going to be some tweaking here and there, and if there’s some things you’d like to see added, let me know.

one of the tasks i’ll have to do is to categorize all the old blog entries. that’ll help you go back to old entries that might be of interest to you.

okay, everyone – thanks for sticking with me so far, and i anticipate quite a bit bigger readership now with all these bells and whistles. by the way, robert sanzalone, vancouver’s “technology evangelist” was an immense help in making all this happen. thanks, robert!

isabella mori
counselling in vancouver

goal setting – part 2

continuing on from yesterday’s blog, here is the rest of steve pavlina’s (edited) words on goal setting

goal setting is an activity

setting clear goals is not a passive act. you must take direct conscious action. everything counts, and nothing is neutral. you are either moving towards your goals, or away from them.

if you do nothing or if you act without clarity, then you are almost certainly a victim of “being outgoaled” – you are spending your time working on other people’s goals without even knowing it. you are happily working to enrich your landlord, other businesses, advertisers, stockholders, etc.

waiting for something to inspire you and hoping that the perfect outcome will just fall into your lap is nothing but a fantasy. Continue reading

goal setting

lately, i’ve been following steve pavlina’s blog. he’s got some pretty strong things to say about personal development. below is a somewhat shortened and edited excerpt of what he says about goal setting and decision making.

bunker hunt, a man who rose from a bankrupt cotton farmer in the 1930s to a multi-billionaire when he died in the 1970s, was once asked during a tv interview what advice he could give to others who wanted to be financially successful.

he responded by saying that it’s not terribly difficult to be successful and that only two things are required.

first, you must decide exactly what it is you want to accomplish. Continue reading

getting support – part 2

when we feel we don’t have enough support, of course there’s many ways we can “go out and get more”. however, often, when we have a problem like this, it’s not because we lack the know-how – it’s that there is something blocking us from reaching for what we need.

when we don’t get the support we long for, it’s often because there are some voices in our heads saying things like, “they don’t have time”, “they’re not interested”, “they already have too much on their plates”, or “if they find out i need help with this, they’ll think i’m a loser.”

when this happens, we can help ourselves by talking this over with someone who has already “proven” that they enjoy supporting others.

here are some ideas on how you might increase your support network:

  • your existing friends and family
  • assertiveness classes or self help books like Continue reading

getting support

today i thought i’d share with you a handout from a workshop i gave a little while ago on social support:

this is part 1 – part 2 is tomorrow.

social support

there’s the quality of supportive relationships – what type of relationships are they and how satisfied are we with them?

then there’s the quantity – how many people “have our back”?

research has found that social support can
· increase immunity (resistance to disease)
· help our emotional health
· reduce stress and illnesses associated with stress
· recovery from illness

what’s your your current social support like?

quality of social support

how satisfied are you in your relationships with family and friends? in the majority of these relationships do you feel that Continue reading

mental illness in the workplace: good news!

last month i reported on yves magloe, a tenured professor at pasadena city college, who was let go because of a mental illness. as many of you know, it is extremely rare of a tenured professor to let go of – tenure usually means lifetime employment.

well, good news. hugo schwyzer reports that professor magloe was reinstated. read more in his blog.
isabella mori
counselling in vancouver