being differently abled: the good news

yesterday, we discussed the tragic difficulties some people have with interacting with people who have bipolar disorder, are deaf, or have other so-called disabilities.

today for some good news regarding people with different abilities.

the other day i came across glenda from do it yourself. wow! this woman is amazing! she’s in a fancy car, she blogs, is an author – oh, and she also has cerebral palsy. she writes her blog with her left thumb.

talk about abilities! what an inspiring woman! (thanks to susan for introducing me to her).

then we have my friend tina, who shushes me every time i use the word “learning disability”. have a taste of it:

i have an extreme dislike for the word dyslexic because it is not true for me and because it describes me as a person with a disability. i can read but i do it in a different way so i prefer to be called “a person with an alternative learning style”.

saying that “i am a person with an alternative learning style” changes the way i see myself and that affects the way others see me.

tina, who left high school hardly being able to read or write, is in the process of finishing a book.

and then i found this little piece in entertainment weekly of all places. it’s about ryan gosling’s new movie, lars and the real girl, to come out on october 12. lars/gosling is in love with a sex doll, bianca.

“he’s really mentally unstable,” says gillespie [the director] … still, gosling doesn’t try to explain away the actions of his troubled character: “his love for bianca is as real as someone else’s love for another person.”

the film’s true heart lies in lars’ support system, including his brother, sister-in-law, psychiatrist and co-worker. “we had discussions like, do they believe in bianca? do they not?” eventually, gillespie decided to have them accept the doll out of devotion to lars. if only we could all have such understanding friends and family.

such a beautiful example of what can happen when we open our hearts, minds, eyes and ears to the “other”, to that which at first glance appears disruptingly different. when we do that, we expand our horizons.

in accepting bianca, this family does more than just humour one of its members. it jumps out of the box and opens the door to saying, “why not?” to life – life that is much bigger and wilder and more beautiful than in those regimented little ruts that we inhabit all to often.

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(this post was part of the carnival of motivation and inspiration)

5 thoughts on “being differently abled: the good news

  1. Mindi

    It think this theme of entries are amazing. It forces people who would otherwise turn a blind eye to in fact OPEN their eyes and see that we are all able to do and accomplish what we set out to do regardless of our mind and/or bodies being “hampered” by a “disability”.
    I really love Tina’s view of looking at herself and the way she learns. I think I shall pass this along to some who would really benefit from this.

  2. Amanda

    I love this post and will be looking into the people mentioned! Every summer I spend a week at a camp for disabled teenagers and they do everything we do just sometimes in slightly different ways. We go out on day trips a couple of days in the week and it’s such a shock because we get so used to doing things in a different way and then suddenly it’s like “oh yeah, I usually do this a different way, don’t I?” I have to say that one week each year is always my favourite, not least because I’m asked to challenge how I view life!

    I also used to visit a lady in her 90s who had such bad arthritis that she had had her toes surgically removed and could only use one finger. Yet with that one finger she used to type to people in internet chat rooms!! I loved visiting her!

    Great post and thanks for stirring up some good old memories for me!

  3. Tina McInerney

    Isabella my Wizard of Oz

    My journey to acceptance was like the story “The Wizard of Oz”. My yellow brick road was rich with weird and wonderful caricatures that seemed to appear just at the exact time they were needed. Each of the caricature had a different role to play in helping me to see what I was capable of in there own special way. When I reached the end of the road I met someone out of the ordinary who gave me the most wonderful reward for all of my efforts. Like the ruby slippers that Dorothy had always had on her feet isabella helped me to see mine and that it was acceptable to have blue slippers and that Kansas City is a marvelous pace to live.

    And like the famous Oz isabella is not really a Wizard just someone out of the ordinary.

    Thank you isabella for the gift of validation and acceptance it has set me free (i don’t know if that is a good thing or not)

    Tina 🙂

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