last month, i started a little series on change and transformation, inspired by a post by my blogging friend nancy that asked, how does change occur? that time i talked about the precursors of change – the “rumblings”, so to say, that precede an earthquake.
for sure, that is the case for some people. in my research on transformative learning, i talked to people who had been transformed through tragic events like accidents and cancer. one person’s life changed completely after surviving a few days locked in a caved-in mine.
it was interesting, though, how often transformative moments in people’s lives were rather small. this is one of the main reasons why i became interested in the connection between transformative learning, psychotherapy and chaos theory. in chaos theory, too, small, even minute changes at crucial moments can make a huge difference. it’s like the straw that breaks the camel’s back.
in my research, i asked interviewees to describe the moment of change, the actual turning point in their transformative experiences.
one person had grown up thinking that people with blue-collar backgrounds like hers could not become successful professionals, and that along with being professional came being “brilliant.” she tells us:
i didn’t know i could set goals. even with one of my daughters who had to work very hard at her schooling – when she said she wanted to become a teacher, i was wondering, can she really do that? i still thought she had to be brilliant, even suggested she’d become a teacher’s assistant instead – so i still put her in a category. … i knew that i was complying with these structures and in a way i wanted my daughter to comply, too … [but then] my daughter graduated and i thought what am i doing? that’s what broke the mold.
after that experience, this person started to set professional goals for herself that were completely different from before.
here’s another example of someone who, rather by accident, took a women’s studies course. this is what happened when she read a particular article.
i had thought that i had “let go” of this notion that i needed to be a dutiful, obedient, subordinate wife. what i realized was that i had let go of that on the surface but at a deep level, i felt like i was doing something wrong. it took this article to raise my consciousness about that.
after reading that article, she completely revised her ideas about being a wife and mother and realized that she’d be quite happy not having children. again, this dramatically changed her career path.
this little story is interesting because it shows the power of being open to revisiting and examining earlier insights – maybe we could call it the “i-thought-i-had-dealt-with-that syndrome.” it reminds of the ever continuing cycle of action and reflection that people as early as dewey (1933, p. 102-118) talk about.