just as hope can be seen from opposing viewpoints, i think the term “enough” can be seen from different points of view as well.
let’s take these three examples:
“you don’t need another blanket, joe. it’s not that cold – these two blankets are enough.”
“don’t worry about making every page perfect. remember, it’s a draft; what you have here is great, it’s definitely good enough.”
“no thanks, i don’t need another helping of pasta; i have enough.”
in the first scenario, joe feels he needs more but he is dismissed by someone who feels she is in a position to adequately assess joe’s needs (and perhaps assess them better than joe himself).
in the second scenario, someone aspires to be perfect and she is reassured; the situation does not call for perfection, and what’s already there is more than adequate.
the person in the third scenario has a good sense for just exactly how much he needs; that need has been fulfilled, and he effortlessly states what his boundaries are: “i have enough.”
we could say that the first situation is about deprivation; the second one is about perfectionism and the third is about balance.
what do we want to have in our lives? deprivation, perfectionism or balance?
it is interesting to note that in the first two scenarios, both times, it is someone else who assesses what’s enough. only in the third, it’s the person himself who decides what’s enough.
we often have uneasy feelings about the word “enough”. often it’s around the phrase “good enough.” perhaps the next time this unease crops up, you can ask yourself, who is making the decision whether something or someone is good enough? and if it’s you who seems to be making that decision and you still feel uneasy, you can ask yourself, “is that really me talking, or is that someone else’s voice inside me? my mother? my teacher? is that voice still valid?”
let’s get to the point where you decide what’s good enough.
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