the keys to happiness are available to anyone, says this article in lifescience.com today: Money that lifts people out of poverty increases happiness, but after that, the better paychecks stop paying off sense-of-well-being dividends, research shows. One route to more happiness is called
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gender identity: shapeshifting
a few weeks ago, i spoke of the book self organizing men, a collection of literary works promoted in jay sennet’s blog, around the theme of FtM’s – people who were born biologically female and transition towards male. here is another work of art in it, a jewel of a poem. it weaves in and… Continue reading gender identity: shapeshifting
psychopaths
a few weeks ago i had a conversation with someone about psychopaths. since i can’t remember for the life of me who i had this conversation with (hmmmm … should i make my next post about memory?), i thought i’d post here a link to a very interesting article about this topic, and hopefully that… Continue reading psychopaths
understanding spammers
okay, here is something that i absolutely have to get off my chest: what goes on in the head of spammers? and what, specifically, is the process of coming up with these amazing names, like abhorrence p. versifying amateurism g. causal ambiguities u. magnetos annihilation j. silliness arnulfo mcleod (more at the end of this… Continue reading understanding spammers
nonviolent communication
a challenge issued by the nonviolent communication site: The Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) would like there to be a critical mass of people using Nonviolent Communication language so all people will get their needs met and resolve their conflicts peacefully. 10 things we can do to contribute to internal, interpersonal, and organizational peace: (1)… Continue reading nonviolent communication
homilies i like
never pass up a good opportunity to shut up. it takes courage to grow up and turn out to be who you really are. the best way to stop feeling like a liar is to stop lying. the bad thing about self-pity is that it gives me permission to do absolutely nothing. don’t believe everything… Continue reading homilies i like
a video!
a few weeks ago, my friend carol from alphaglyph productions did an interview with me. you can see it on the alphaglyph podcast site. you can try either the “download” or the “play” button. you might need the quick time with itunes plugin for it (for some systems, quick time alone doesn’t seem to do… Continue reading a video!
overcoming codependency
once in a while i post poetry here. it helps process our thoughts and feelings. but there’s no limit to the art forms we can use to express ourselves. here is the drawing of a friend of mine, literally depicting what’s going on inside his head, inspired by a list of codependent behaviours he found… Continue reading overcoming codependency
alternative thought records, pt II
a continuation from yesterday’s blog regarding alternative thought records: this is an example of using alternative thought records. in the beginning, it can usually only be done afterwards. with time, one can get practiced enough to try and do it right in the moment. this is an example of debriefing the next day: situation: harry… Continue reading alternative thought records, pt II
a tool: alternative thought record
cognitive therapies, which focus on examining and “repairing” one’s thoughts, are often seen as the best way to deal with depression. while i believe that the tools that cognitive therapies provides are just one among many ways to help with depression, they can nevertheless be quite useful. so here is a tool from this tool… Continue reading a tool: alternative thought record