human, the storytelling animal

i just read too scared to pee – about women in nairobi’s slums for whom it is just too dangerous to go to the washroom at night. details. it is details that make things real for us. statistics like “30% of men in a south african survey believed that women ask to be raped” are… Continue reading human, the storytelling animal

links: psychology, morality, social media and dogs

in my long-suffering attempts to organize my internet life better, i’m going to see what it’s like if i post the occasional link article.  so here’s a stroll through the links open on august 1, with the first paragraph of each post so that you can get an idea what it’s all about.  you may… Continue reading links: psychology, morality, social media and dogs

body language and cyber language

my new-found friend sheldon from the kitzul connection wrote this the other day: given the world we live in with social media dominating our relationshipscapes, why all the love??! i have had this brewing in the back of my mind for a while now. but it really hit home during a recent trip to the… Continue reading body language and cyber language

divorce: a ballad

he screams at her and she screams back he in this corner, she in the other over there. the children, they run back and forth with “who will fix our toys?” she screams at him and he screams back but only in their heads. their mouths are silent and their eyes don’t meet. the children… Continue reading divorce: a ballad

love every day

is it valentine’s day yet?  what?  i missed it?  drat!  yup, that was one of the things that fell between the cracks during my trip to europe.  what also fell between the cracks was telling you about an ebook that chelle kindly invited me to participate in.  as a gift to her readers on valentine’s… Continue reading love every day

the power of denial

i had a conversation with a client the other day about his brother who is presenting him with quite a bit of bafflement. “he (let’s call him noah) is such a nice guy; wise, funny, understanding, compassionate, self aware. and then – there is this part of himself that he seems to be completely unaware… Continue reading the power of denial

speaking the truth

you are reading an article about truth right now. at this moment, your eyes are working sufficiently to be able to read this article, which is written in lower case, and involves a quote by nietzsche. in the alternative, you are listening to an audio program that is translating these words into voice, or someone… Continue reading speaking the truth

christmas, love, agape

these days i really seem to enjoy to quote from books.  here’s one i have talked about before: the priority of love: christian charity and social justice, by timothy p. jackson.  let me give you some quotes. jackson puts the christian virtue of charity in close context of agape.  according to the stanford dictionary of… Continue reading christmas, love, agape

be the change: violent criminals

marshall rosenberg, the man known for his work in nonviolent communication, appears in the section off the cushion and into life in be the change: how meditation can transform you and the world). he works a lot in prisons. the people there have done some stuff that i really do not like, like sexually molesting… Continue reading be the change: violent criminals

motivation, marriage and work relationships

as you can see, i haven’t been a very busy posting beaver lately.  i’ve been watching my energy level and need to put some things on the back burner.  every morning i come up with all kinds of wonderful ideas for blog posts but by the time i find a moment to post something, there’s… Continue reading motivation, marriage and work relationships