going to a place that is love

pix love heart monogamy sweethearts marriageover the next few days, as we are approaching valentine’s day, let’s talk about love.

here is an excerpt of what ram dass in his book the only dance there is says about being in love:

love and consciousness are one and the same thing. as you get into a higher state of consciousness you come close to being-in-love. that doesn’t mean interpersonal love. it means being love.

now if we fall in love, i say, “she really turns me on. i love her.” you’re turning me on to a place inside of me that is called love.

it is only when you begin to understand that if you and i are truly in love, if i go to the place in me that is love and you to the place in you that is love, we are “together” in love. we start to understand that what love means is that we are sharing a common state together. that state exists in you and it exists in me.

going to a place that is love … i like that much more than the idea of “falling in love”. “falling in love,” that always has a bit of a victimy-y ring to me. as if it was some sort of trap set by fate, and you tumble in.

going together to a place that is love … doesn’t that sound much freer? something that you do with intention, with your eyes wide open.

imagine holding out your hand to a person with whom you have a deep resonance, saying, “let’s go together to this place that is love.”

“falling in love” also has a bit of a final ring to it. you fall once, and usually that’s it.

going together to a place that is love … the beauty of this is that it’s much easier to do this over and over again, with the same person.

isabella mori
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5 thoughts on “going to a place that is love

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  3. Sydney

    I never liked the phrase: ‘falling in love’. I think we sometimes ‘fall’ into a state of deep infatuation, but we don’t fall into love. Sometimes the state of infatuation changes into one of love, but generally we grow into love. At least this is my experience.

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  5. amanda

    The feeling that’s described as “falling in love” feels victim-y. It kind of holds a feeling of despair and helplessness and sometimes we think we’ve fallen in love with the absolute wrong person.

    I think Sydney is right, this is infatuation more than love. (I came here from the discussion at rethink- about the Emily Dickinson poem http://www.ashokkarra.com/2008/08/is-love-possible-on-dickinsons-i-could-suffice-for-him-i-knew-643/comment-page-1/#comment-2615 which had a thing or two to do with choosing to love) I have found- and this very very recently, in the last year- that love really is a choice- that is not just an old-folks’ cliche. When we genuinely love we are active in something not just stuck in some uncontrollable cycle.

    (and hello!!)

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