listening to mom

listening to the cbc’s early edition this morning after driving back from lifting weights in my friend tom’s garden, i was intrigued by the question the host, rick cluff, asked of his panel:

“what’s the best advice your mother ever gave you?”

one answer was particularly memorable. moe sihota said that when he told his mother that he had won an election, she simply put down her knitting and said, in punjabi, “that’s fine – but don’t you ever forget where you’re coming from.” don’t forget your roots.

one of the most important things my mother has said to me, over and over, is “ignorance is evil.” what she meant by that was intentional ignorance: looking away when someone is suffering; forgoing self-examination; hiding under a blanket of “i don’t know.” this attitude has definitely made a great impact on me and my work.

what’s the most important thing your mother has ever said to you? how has that influenced the rest of your life?

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3 thoughts on “listening to mom

  1. B.

    My relationship with my mother isn’t that great, and to be quite honest, I dread Mother’s Day. I don’t have a lot of good childhood memories of her. But she did turn me on to Patsy Kline and for some weird reason, she’s always been a consolation to me. Maybe like, what not to do. You know “I fall to pieces”? I love that song but it hurts so much to hear it, it taught me to do the opposite. No man will ever make me fall to pieces. Maybe I could credit my mother with that.

  2. B.

    My relationship with my mother isn’t that great, and to be quite honest, I dread Mother’s Day. I don’t have a lot of good childhood memories of her. But she did turn me on to Patsy Kline and for some weird reason, she’s always been a consolation to me. Maybe like, what not to do. You know “I fall to pieces”? I love that song but it hurts so much to hear it, it taught me to do the opposite. No man will ever make me fall to pieces. Maybe I could credit my mother with that.

  3. Rob Cottingham

    Maybe not the most important thing (there’s a long list of candidates, and the smart money’s on “I love you”), but the one that jumps to mind:

    When I was getting freaked out about something, she suggested that I ask myself, “Ten years from now, will it really matter?”

    It’s kept me from the brink more times than I can remember.

  4. Rob Cottingham

    Maybe not the most important thing (there’s a long list of candidates, and the smart money’s on “I love you”), but the one that jumps to mind:

    When I was getting freaked out about something, she suggested that I ask myself, “Ten years from now, will it really matter?”

    It’s kept me from the brink more times than I can remember.

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