trying vs. allowing

in connection with a project my blogger friend karen is working on, i was inspired to think about these two concepts:

trying.

allowing.

what might they mean?

of course words have such complex meanings, and how we experience them individually may vary immensely from person to person.

“trying” – the pleasant part of that, to me, is that it’s open ended, that it points to a beginner’s mind. the not-so-pleasant part, which weighs a little heavier, makes me think of clenched teeth and ‘trying but failing’.

“allowing” – allowing is so sweet. it’s expansive. it’s opening one’s arms and saying, come in, come in! it has no negative connotations for me, although i can see how it might for others (‘allowing myself to be a doormat’ comes up as a possibility).

so i can make the choice now and combine all the good stuff: when i start something new or resume something old, i can

  • be open ended
  • have a beginner’s mind
  • be sweet
  • be expansive
  • open my arms
  • say, “come in, come in!”

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6 thoughts on “trying vs. allowing

  1. I’m still at the baby steps with money, well the ‘cash’ kind in any case, rather than the bank balance stage.
    So nip back over and pick up your award.
    Best wishes

  2. I’m still at the baby steps with money, well the ‘cash’ kind in any case, rather than the bank balance stage.
    So nip back over and pick up your award.
    Best wishes

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