share your story

have you experienced recovery and healing in your life? goodtherapy, a great new resource for people who believe in affirmative therapy, therapy that is non-pathologizing, empowering, collaborative is starting a healing story collection. if you have something to share, go here. the first contribution you’ll find starts like this: once upon a time there was… Continue reading share your story

13 encouraging questions

“never mind the answers – just ask the right questions!” this is so true. last sunday i participated in a conference, dream vancouver, intended to encourage citizens to articulate their visions and hopes for an even better vancouver. the main process of the conference was organized around appreciative inquiry. appreciative inquiry is a philosophy and… Continue reading 13 encouraging questions

more on guilt and responsibility

i’d like to thank alex for his reply to my last post about guilt and for initiating an interesting discussion. alex asks, “why she has to feel sad or bad if joe forgets their wedding anniversary? she has to be confident and sure enough to know that he cares about their marriage even if he… Continue reading more on guilt and responsibility

understanding guilt: is it useful?

what is guilt? we usually think that guilt is a feeling. however, it is not a primary emotion like fear or happiness, sadness or even shame. it is more complex. when joe feels guilt over having forgotten his and mary’s wedding anniversary, a number of things happen. he needs to have a basic concept of… Continue reading understanding guilt: is it useful?

walking the talk, with balance

there was a bit of a flurry of emails today over a project dio diogenes is working on. some of these emails weren’t exceedingly friendly – but one stood out in its civility and straightfordwardness. so of course i had to immediately go and check that person out. it turned out to be lisa gates,… Continue reading walking the talk, with balance

the scrunchie challenge: change a habit!

adam at the monk at work blog sent me an email about his latest blog post yesterday. i quickly glanced at it and then just marked the URL for the post. it reads http://monkatwork.com/2007/09/21/no-complaints-and-contest/. because i only glanced at it, all i saw was “no complaints contest”. hey, i thought, what a cool idea! it… Continue reading the scrunchie challenge: change a habit!