i feel a cold coming on. i could ignore it. i could go to bed. i could get all panicky. i could have a hot bath. i could listen to my body. i could feel guilty about getting sick. i could be afraid that i’ve infected my friend who is weak from chemotherapy. i could… Continue reading getting sick
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hopelessness?
“research convincingly shows that people come to therapy not because they have problems but because they have become demoralized about their chances of resolving particular challenges.” this is something i brought up in one of my earliest blog entries. there, i talked about how we face problems all the time, and how the “size” of… Continue reading hopelessness?
being invisible
back in the 90s, i took a women’s studies course and as part of that, i was supposed to participate in an event during women’s day week. the report on this still evokes a lot of feeling in me about being a woman artist, being (in)visible, trying to swim against the stream… here is an… Continue reading being invisible
time, space, stories, memories
today i went to the 75th anniversary of my daughter’s elementary school. time travel! there was someone there who was may queen in 1934, a 95-year-old teacher who had taught there for many years, and of course the choir who sang right across the century, from i got plenty o’ nuttin to rag mop to… Continue reading time, space, stories, memories
overcoming alcoholism
stanton peele, north-america’s grand-daddy of progressive (and controversial) views on addiction, has this to say about success with overcoming alcoholism. The most important single prognostic variable associated with remission among alcoholics who attend alcohol clinics is having something to lose if they continue to abuse alcohol…. Patients cited changed life circumstances rather than clinic intervention… Continue reading overcoming alcoholism
the myth of keeping up
in a blog entry, the creating passionate users guys (three software/game developer geeks “passionate about how the brain works and how to exploit it for better learning and memory”) make a good point about the myth of keeping up. it’s really comforting to hear this from leading-edge people in information technology – if they can’t… Continue reading the myth of keeping up
enchantment
To become enchanted is a valuable skill, more essential than it has ever been before. To understand the inner truth of a person who is radically different from you, to penetrate a belief that seems preposterous, to grasp a faith that violates
a house full of stuff
i have recently heard from a number of people who have difficulties with what could be called “hoarding” – ammassing and keeping more possessions or even animals than one can house in a living space. this oversupply then becomes a problem, either for the person who accumulates these items, and/or for those sharing and/or visiting.… Continue reading a house full of stuff
headache, families and guilt
from WebMD: When one person gets a headache, the family may feel the pain, a new survey shows. The results show that headaches often run in families, with effects rippling through the family like waves on a stone-struck pond. The survey included the statement, “I am unable to tend to
a narrow discipline
i have in my bathroom a hidden place where i scatter words. it’s true! behind my old pink mary kay bag, between it and