valentine’s day: freedom to marry day

love in a dark time is an extraordinarily well written collection of essays by irish (and gay) writer colm toibin. it chronicles the romantic and artistic struggles of gay artists, from genius writer/playwright/poet oscar wilde to spanish filmmaker pedro almodovar. on valentine’s day, i want to remember that we need to break out of the… Continue reading valentine’s day: freedom to marry day

dialogue: speaking the truth

a few days ago, we talked here about the rejection of jay’s six-word story because it was supposedly not g-rated. jay’s and jennifer’s comments on it were so thought-provoking that i decided to post my replies to them here. this is not just about one incidence. it’s about how to best deal with the lack… Continue reading dialogue: speaking the truth

six-word stories, part 2: queer discrimination

a few days ago, i posted about the six word story contest at middlezonemusings. the only stipulation was that the submissions were to be g-rated. i thought it was a great meme/game and tagged a few blogger friends, among others jay sennett. jay, a transgendered person, crafted this insightful phrase: no breasts. complete hysterectomy. gender:… Continue reading six-word stories, part 2: queer discrimination

carnival of healing #68

how do you heal the emotional aftermath of cancer treatment? how do we deal with the ups and downs of our personal journeys? what does external clutter tell us about the chaos in our minds? these are just a few of the questions posed in this week’s edition of the carnival of healing, a readers… Continue reading carnival of healing #68

happy families, unhappy families

i’m here with my husband’s clan of grandparents, aunts, nieces, sisters, in-laws … i’m really one lucky duck. often i think of the difficult family situations that other people are in and i am just so very, very grateful to be part of families that by and large are loving, accepting, and eager to show… Continue reading happy families, unhappy families

identities vs. labels

(this is another entry that i transferred from one of the lost january artices from my old blog) the following thoughts are inspired by a conversation in daily dose of queer about gender identies: what’s an identity? what do i need it for? why do others need me to have an identity? is an identity… Continue reading identities vs. labels

gender freedom

as my dear readers know, one of the blogs i watch is daily dose of queer, where i found a link to jay sennett’s blog. he’s looking for bloggers to review a new anthology called “self organizing men” – women transitioning into malehood (or FtM, as it’s often called). good for him to use blogvertising… Continue reading gender freedom