need to shake up your brain a bit? play the STORR game – STOp-Reflect-Realize: what to do: print out a few copies of this page, and then tuck them away in places where you’ll stumble across them in the next week or so. whenever you come across this sheet: stop – reflect – realize you… Continue reading the STORR game
Category: emotional health
blog conversation: leaving bad work experiences behind
as you probably know by now, jacob from the job mob and i are having a blog conversation about recovering from bad work experiences. in his latest post about the topic, jacob points out, quite rightfully, that one of the reasons why we end up in bad work situations is because we didn’t ask the… Continue reading blog conversation: leaving bad work experiences behind
blog conversation: dealing with bad work experiences, part 2
yesterday we started a discussion of bad job experiences – part of a blog conversation i’m having with jacob share from the job mob. so yesterday we set the scene – an awful, awful work environment with a boss or co-workers who make your life miserable. what can you do about it? here are the… Continue reading blog conversation: dealing with bad work experiences, part 2
blog conversation: dealing with bad work experiences
what was the worst job you’ve ever had? what are ways of surviving that experience – and not just surviving but learning from it and thriving in the next job? that’s the topic of a blog conversation jacob from the job mob and i will be having in the next little while. jacob started it… Continue reading blog conversation: dealing with bad work experiences
family and money
the other day, nancy asked an interesting question in her saturday case study: jeff and his two siblings, a brother and sister, each inherited a sizeable legacy when their parents died. jeff was conservative, and grew his legacy into an even more significant nest egg and is now independently wealthy. he came to me because… Continue reading family and money
albert ellis: empirically, logically and self-helpingly
the other day i was listening to a little audio clip of an interview with albert ellis, the no-holds-barred founder of rational-emotive behavioural therapy (REBT, also known as RET and RBT). ellis was one of the grandfathers of cognitive therapy; he wasn’t too enamoured with the theories he said freud “made up” and jung’s “mystical… Continue reading albert ellis: empirically, logically and self-helpingly
thinking differently about success, failure and learning
a few weeks ago i wrote a blog post, the scrunchie challenge, where i felt inspired by a post at monk at work to change a habit. i said i was going to keep a scrunchie on my wrist for three weeks, to remind me to ground myself whenever i wasn’t experiencing my body enough.… Continue reading thinking differently about success, failure and learning
owning our emotions
friday’s child wrote a post a little while ago – i can’t find it again for the life of me – chuckling about a list of things that we are supposed to be embarrassed about. something like having your zipper down in public, if i remember correctly, is supposed to make you all mortified. i… Continue reading owning our emotions
guilt, cheney and guantanamo bay
junebugkitty, one of my stumbleupon friends, had some interesting comments on the topic of guilt that we started discussing here a few days ago. he mentioned the famous milgram experiment, where subjects in a psychological experiment were required to administer electrical shocks to their fellows when told so by an authority. over 50% followed those… Continue reading guilt, cheney and guantanamo bay
acceptance
one of my favourite sayings is, “acceptance is the key.” it’s something that can be misinterpreted as fatalism, as acting like a doormat. but that’s now how it works. acceptance is saying, “ok, this is what is. this is what presents itself. let’s deal with that, rather than denying what’s going on or deluding myself.”… Continue reading acceptance